Ep #23: Your Self-Talk Soundtrack & Why It Matters | The Lawyer Stress Solution

Ep #23: Your Self-Talk Soundtrack & Why It Matters


One of the questions I often pose to my clients is: “What would it mean to treat yourself like your own best client?”

As lawyers, we’re trained to aggressively advocate for our clients. We fight for them in court, negotiate for them at the negotiating table, and often go against formidable opposing counsel to protect their interests. However, when it comes to ourselves, we often don’t represent our own best interests, especially if we’re part of a minority group.

On this episode, I want to talk to you about the two main reasons why we neglect advocating for ourselves in our work and personal life. We explore how your self-talk holds you back and how following internalized conditioning, and then criticizing yourself for doing so, creates a limiting force in all areas of your life.

Listen in to find out how you can begin shaking off the shackles of harmful self-talk and create incredible success in all areas of your life.

If you’re interested going even deeper and would like some help with this work, make sure to get on the sneak peek interest list for the upcoming Unf*ck Your Brain Program

What You’ll Learn From this Episode:

  • How your self-talk prevents you from representing your own best interests.
  • Some main examples of thoughts that hold you back.
  • The benefits of working on your “self-talk soundtrack.”
  • The detrimental and insidious effects of the social conditioning that you’ve internalized.
  • An exercise that will help you begin advocating for yourself in all areas of your life.

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About the author

Kara Loewentheilis a former litigator, academic, and think tank director who now runs a boutique life coaching practice for lawyers. As a certified cognitive life coach, her coaching work focuses on teaching lawyers how to reduce stress, improve time management, balance their workload and personal lives, and create a sustainable and enjoyable legal practice. Before launching her coaching practice Ms. Loewentheil ran the Public Rights / Private Conscience Project at Columbia Law School, held academic fellowships at Yale and Columbia, and litigated in state and federal court. Ms. Loewentheil clerked on the United States Court of Appeals for the Fifth Circuit and is a cum laude graduate of Harvard Law School and Yale University.

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