Ep #5: Treating Conversation Like Cross Examination

In law school, we learn to approach any statement as an assertion that needs to be interrogated or analyzed. The problem arises when we carry that way of thinking over into conversations in our personal lives.

On this episode of The Lawyer Stress Solution, I’m excited to talk about one of my favorite topics – the way that thinking and talking like a lawyer impacts your personal relationships outside of work to a less-than-desirable outcome. I explain how you can keep your lawyer brain at bay and stop defaulting to being on either attack or defense at all times when communicating with others.

Don’t miss this episode’s useful tools and strategies that will help you transform how you think about your communication and interactions with people around you.


What You’ll Learn From this Episode:

  • Why lawyers often treat regular conversations like cross examination.
  • Why this communication style goes against the reasons why people have conversation with each other.
  • How being on either attack or defense doesn’t contribute to having great conversations.
  • How you can change the way you think about your communication and interactions with others in a way that contributes to any conversation’s outcome.

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Kara Loewentheilis a former litigator, academic, and think tank director who now runs a boutique life coaching practice for lawyers. As a certified cognitive life coach, her coaching work focuses on teaching lawyers how to reduce stress, improve time management, balance their workload and personal lives, and create a sustainable and enjoyable legal practice. Before launching her coaching practice Ms. Loewentheil ran the Public Rights / Private Conscience Project at Columbia Law School, held academic fellowships at Yale and Columbia, and litigated in state and federal court. Ms. Loewentheil clerked on the United States Court of Appeals for the Fifth Circuit and is a cum laude graduate of Harvard Law School and Yale University.

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